Confidence is something that everyone strides to have. We admire it in those around us. Yet, there are many times that you may think that someone is confident by the way that they present themselves to the world, only to find out that they truly do not feel that way at all! Confidence is funny like that. Everyone wants it and only a very few truly have it. It goes along with the term “fake it ‘til you make it.” If you want to seem a certain way, then you can make a conscious effort to act in that way until one day you truly feel it on the inside!
It is well known that a man that exudes confidence is a man that attracts those around him. This isn’t solely romantic. If someone is outwardly confident, it makes you want to be by them and it makes you want to trust their decision making. It is hard to trust someone if they seem uncertain or as if they cannot make up their mind. This also goes into the dating scene.
When it comes to dating, men who display self-confidence succeed in attracting ladies far more often than those that do not. This is despite how they feel on the inside! It is all about what is displayed outwardly. Women are more attracted to men who seem sure of themselves, which is not to be confused with stuck-up or cocky. We all know that is a huge turn off! But, a man who walks with a ray of confidence is like bringing a moth to a flame.
So, even if you are quivering in your boots reading this article and thinking there is no way that you can possibly be confident, have no fear. Thee are some tricks that you can have up your sleeve to achieve this!
1. Posture is Key
You may have heard the term “stand tall.” Well, this isn’t really speaking towards how many feet high you are, but rather, how you enter a room. When you walk, hold your head up high and keep your shoulders back. Think of it as if there was a string on the top of your head holding you up.
This can also be achieved while sitting. There is a lot of value in your grandma’s advice to sit up straight and not to slouch. It is important to keep your head up and be aware of your surroundings. Not only is it respectful to those that you are with, it screams confidence.
You will walk into a room as if you own the place, or sit with a posture that demonstrates that you are ready to take on the world. You may be a shy person and walking into a room of people at a party may be the very last thing that you’d think would be fun. But, walk in as described and no one will even tell that you’re silently almost peeing your pants! Better yet, someone may see you walk in and say, “who’s he? I’ve got to get to know him!”
2. Put Your Best Face Forward
Our faces can tell a lot about us. They make lines when we smile, frown, cry or laugh. They show if we’ve spent too much time in the sun without sunscreen. Use high quality skin care products, such as ManMade Refresher All-in-One Moisturizer and ManMade Resetter 2-in-1 Shave Cream / Face Wash. A shocking 55% of men do not do anything extra to care for their skin. Simply adding this to your daily routine puts you ahead of over half the male population! Not only will you feel fresher throughout the day, but it will be clear that you feel good about yourself. You’ll feel confident in your skin and that will shine like an aura around you.
If we are speaking romantically here and you’re seeking out a potential partner, seeing that you care enough about yourself that you care for the skin on your face demonstrates such a confidence that it would be hard to not be attracted to you! Not only are you showing confidence in your own appearance, but also in appearing knowledgeable about your health. A face that is clean and free of blemishes is a face that is healthy and less likely to experience a skin condition or an infection. Being proactive about your health regime speaks volumes to others.
3. Affirmation and Gratitude
There has been significant research done on the positive impacts of speaking self-affirmations and practicing gratitude. An affirmation is something you say to yourself that is positive and self-empowering. It can be as simple as: “I am enough.” Affirmations should be said to begin your day, or even at the end of the day. It helps you to set the tone for the day and set you off on the right foot or close out the day for a restful sleep.
However, if you’re going through a rough moment in your day that may rock your confidence, it is appropriate timing to pause and run through affirmation. It may sound like this: “This does not define me. I am strong. I am capable. I am enough.” Repeat this in your head, or out loud if that works better for you, and you will feel your blood pressure come down and become more empowered. Then, take a deep breath and power through the rest of that moment with confidence.
Gratitude plays a huge part in this, as well. We live in a society that thrives on instant gratification. It is important to take a step back and think about all we do have. Are you in good health? Are you employed? Do you have a family? And so on… Rather than think about all that we need or want, focusing on what we do have and being thankful for that has a positive impact on our mental health, and how we carry ourselves. If we feel good about ourselves and are thankful for what we do have, we will show this outwardly and you will scream confidence to others!
4. Speak Clearly And From Your Diaphragm
Please do not enter a room yelling and screaming, that will create other feelings and almost makes you seem more insecure. In the same regard, it is important for you to speak clearly and loudly enough to be heard in the environment that you are in. What that means is that you have an “inside voice” and an “outside voice.” You want to project yourself in a way that you are heard clearly. If you mumble, seem unclear or are not direct in your words you will seem insecure and not confident. It will be hard to trust the information that you are trying to convey to your audience. You want to attract others, not push them away by your personality or how you’re speaking!
Confidence is Valuable
Confidence is like a muscle in our body, the more you work it, the more it grows. When you first start working out, your muscles are weaker and you may stand in front of the mirror and flex to make it seem as though they are bigger. Much is the same with confidence. Until you feel it on the inside, using some of these tactics listed above will help you to come off as confident so then you can focus on whomever you would like to attract. Ladies want a confident man who will turn their attention to them and not have to build up their man’s confidence. Truth be told, that is exhausting! They want a confident man by their side to walk the streets of life with. Along with that, you will feel so much better in your own skin and it will be clear to others.